Manners TO PARENTS

A Muslim would know the rights of both parents on him and filial duty, obey and do good to both. Not just because they are both the cause of its existence, or because they have done well against him and meet his needs, or because they are the most prominent and main man for himself, but more so because Allah Ta'ala has set an obligation on children to serve and do good to his parents, and even the order of their mention is included with the main servant liability or obligation to worship only to Allaah and not menyekutukanNya. Word of Allaah which means: "And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and let the mother do good to your father as well as possible." (Surat al-Isra ': 23)

Rights of both parents is the greatest right that must be implemented by every Muslim, here are some pointers Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam in kind to both parents during life or after the death of both of them.

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1. Obey them for not disobey Allah Ta'ala.

Obeying parents is obligatory upon every Muslim, is being disobeyed both an act that is forbidden, unless they are told to associating partners with Allaah (shirk doing) or to engage in immoral acts. Allah Ta'ala says, which means, "And if they strive to associate with something that I have no knowledge about it, then do not obey them, both in the world and pergaulilah well, ...." (QS.Luqman: 15)

Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said, "There is no obedience to disobey God. Indeed it was only in obedience to do good". (Narrated by Al-Bukhari)

2. Dutiful and humble himself before both parents

Allah Ta'ala says, that, "... and let the mother do good to your father as well as possible. If any one of them or both of them until they are advanced in pemeliharaanmu, then once in a while do not you tell them words «ah» and do not be shouting at them and say to them a noble word., and humble yourselves against them both with great pity and say, 'O Rabbku, love them both, as they both have educated me a little.' "(Surah . Al-Israa ': 23-24)

Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said: "It's lost, really lost, and people are getting really lose both parents are elderly, or one of them then it can not put it into heaven." (HR.Muslim)

In between devotion to parents is to keep the words and actions that may harm them, even if in the form of signals or by saying 'ah', does not exceed the volume of their voices. Humble yourself before them by way of preface their affairs.

3. Speak gently in front of them

4. Provide food for their

It also includes a form of devotion to the parents, especially if it is a result of their own efforts. The more so if the conditions are both elderly. It should, they provided the best food and drink and prioritizing them both on him, his son and his wife.

5. Ask for permission to them before going for Jihad and other matters

Permission to parents is necessary for an undetermined jihad (obligations to him-pent). A man came to the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam and asked, "O Messenger of Allah if I could join the jihad?" He asked, 'Do you still have both parents?' The man replied, 'Still'. He said, 'strive (by way of devotion) to both'. "(Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim), and many hadith which convey the same hadith.

6. Giving possessions to parents for what they want.

Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam once said to a man when he said, "My father wanted to take my treasure". The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said, "You and your wealth belong to your father." (Narrated by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, and Ibn Majah).

Therefore, one should not be miserly (miser) to the person who caused his existence, nurture it as a child, and has been good to him.

7. Making both the pleasure in doing good to the people he loves.

Should someone make both parents pleasure in doing good to the people they love. That is to glorify them, connect with their ties, fulfilling promises (parents) to them, and so forth.

8. Meets oath / Nazar parents

If both parents are swearing to a particular matter in which there are no immoral acts, it is compulsory for a child to fulfill the oath because it includes both their rights.

9. Do not berate the parents.

Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said, "Including the great sin is someone berate his parents." The companions asked, "O Messenger of Allah, is there anyone who berate their parents? ' He replied, "Yes. His father berate someone else then that person reply to berate parents. He berate others and the mother replied berate his mother." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim)

Sometimes actions are not perceived by a child, and done in jest but it is a great sin.

10. Putting devotion to the mother of the father

A man once asked the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam, "Who is more entitled to good treatment from me?" He replied, "Your mother." The man asked again, 'Then who? 'He again said, "Your mother." The man asked, "Then who?" He replied, "Your mother." So who else? He asked. "Your father," he said. "(Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim)

The above hadith does not mean more mothers than fathers obey. Therefore, obey my father would take precedence if both are ordered at the same time and in the event that allowed the shari'ah. The reason is mother herself obliged to obey her husband.

The purpose of 'prioritizing kind to mother' in the Hadith is to be more smooth and soft to the mother from the father. Some scholars salaf said, "The right of the father over the mother's rights and deserves to be met."

11. Putting dutiful to parents from doing good to his wife.

Among the hadith shows it is the story of three people trapped in a cave and they can not get out then they bertawasul with their good deeds, among them charitable, 'there is a priority to provide milk for his parents, although his wife and children need '.


Rights of Parents After They Died

1. Taking care of the body and a lot of praying for them, as this is the devotion of a child to his parents.

2. Beristighfar (beg forgiveness of Allah Ta'ala) for both of them, because they're the most important people to pray that God Almighty forgive their sins and accept their good deeds.

3. Will fulfill the promise and parents who have not been met during their lives, and increase the good deeds they had done during their lives. Therefore, the reward will continue to flow to them both as good deeds were followed.

4. Glorifying a close friend or both parents, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said, "Indeed the best filial son who is a rope connecting his friendship with a family friend after his father died". (Narrated by Muslim)

5. Connecting ties with relatives Mom and Dad. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said, "Whoever wants to connect his existing silaturrahim dikuburannya, then sambunglah silaturrahim rope with his brothers after his death". (Narrated by Ibn Hibban).


Hopefully clues Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam in kind to both parents on we can make happen in our lives. Because it is the right of both of them as our duty as a righteous child to do so. Allaah knows best.